Judging others, knowing or unknowingly is in our blood, I guess. Since childhood, a person is being compared with others by the society or by themself. Though it starts with a curiosity of knowing how good or bad we are with respect to other person and also to find out what do they do differently that makes them what they are. But gradually when we implement the same on us, what we get is disappointment because we are not the other person, we are we, and hence, even we hate accepting it, we develop a sense of hate or jealousy for the other person.
We do this every single time. In case, if this comparison and copying thing finally make us like them, we certainly start devaluing it, thinking it was not a big deal, infact, I am made to perform much better than them but if we fail, we start to hate ourselves even though it seems that this hate is for them. Subconsciously we make our heart and mind believe that we are less, we lack something and we start questioning- why can't i be that successful, why can't i be that happy, healthy, beautiful, smart, intelligent, rich, kind, cool, hot or what not?
And we keep moving on to other person around us and finding ways by observing them through which we can make our life less miserable and more joyous as they seem to be living.
We never stop and accept ourselves how we are and how others are and also let the world accept us in whatever way they want as we have no control on them but we do have control on ourselves. But what do we do? We keep trying and the world keep judging us. This is more easier than controlling ourselves right? We think we can control the world but not ourself, we need to expand and grow without any limits even though that is unrealistic and will make us boom someday!
But the real tragedy is- even that other person is comparing himself/herself with another person and doing the same as we do by comparing ourself with him/her. This is mostly with every other people in this world.
And this is because of such people only this comparison thing exists which carries with it a desire to be the best or atleast to be like the other one who in turn is trying to be the another other one.
While reading this newsletter, instantly one quote hit in my mind that fit perfectly on you By Frank Kern :-
"If YOU Want To Impress People, Make Things Complicated! If YOU Want To Help People, Keep It Simple!"
You explained very well MIKE and ERICA situation. You remember, I already told you earlier, You have great qualities of a writer. Your writings make me think deep about everything. There is one line in the newsletter :-
"Life is good, Death is bad".
People think that death is a tragedy. It is not. People living their entire lives without experiencing life is a tragedy. If you die, there is really no tragedy. That is the end of whatever problems you are experiencing in life. But if you are alive and not experiencing life in its totality, that is a true tragedy. This is expressed very beautifully in a Sanskrit verse. It says: "Jananam Sukhadam Maranam Karunam'. "Jananam' means birth or life. It says life is a pleasure or joy. This is so. If you learn to handle your body and mind properly, your experience of life will be a pleasure or joy. But 'maranam', or death, is 'karunam', or compassion, Death is compassion because it relieves you.
Judging others, knowing or unknowingly is in our blood, I guess. Since childhood, a person is being compared with others by the society or by themself. Though it starts with a curiosity of knowing how good or bad we are with respect to other person and also to find out what do they do differently that makes them what they are. But gradually when we implement the same on us, what we get is disappointment because we are not the other person, we are we, and hence, even we hate accepting it, we develop a sense of hate or jealousy for the other person.
We do this every single time. In case, if this comparison and copying thing finally make us like them, we certainly start devaluing it, thinking it was not a big deal, infact, I am made to perform much better than them but if we fail, we start to hate ourselves even though it seems that this hate is for them. Subconsciously we make our heart and mind believe that we are less, we lack something and we start questioning- why can't i be that successful, why can't i be that happy, healthy, beautiful, smart, intelligent, rich, kind, cool, hot or what not?
And we keep moving on to other person around us and finding ways by observing them through which we can make our life less miserable and more joyous as they seem to be living.
We never stop and accept ourselves how we are and how others are and also let the world accept us in whatever way they want as we have no control on them but we do have control on ourselves. But what do we do? We keep trying and the world keep judging us. This is more easier than controlling ourselves right? We think we can control the world but not ourself, we need to expand and grow without any limits even though that is unrealistic and will make us boom someday!
But the real tragedy is- even that other person is comparing himself/herself with another person and doing the same as we do by comparing ourself with him/her. This is mostly with every other people in this world.
And this is because of such people only this comparison thing exists which carries with it a desire to be the best or atleast to be like the other one who in turn is trying to be the another other one.
Funny and painful this is!! :):(
Wow! Such a seemingly simple thing yet so complex. Wonderfully put.
Good analysis!(Ah,no!I am certainly not judging you!)
So the mind really hates not knowing. And proceeds to fill in vacuums by having a rough filing system to make you more
efficient/superior. It fills in the blanks with stuff you've heard, read, seen or experienced during your lifetime!
It's important to come out of auto mode.That vague general space where everything is sorted into good and bad. Or whichever is your favorite polarity.
I try!I try hard!;)
I wish everyone had a good polarity by default! :D
While reading this newsletter, instantly one quote hit in my mind that fit perfectly on you By Frank Kern :-
"If YOU Want To Impress People, Make Things Complicated! If YOU Want To Help People, Keep It Simple!"
You explained very well MIKE and ERICA situation. You remember, I already told you earlier, You have great qualities of a writer. Your writings make me think deep about everything. There is one line in the newsletter :-
"Life is good, Death is bad".
People think that death is a tragedy. It is not. People living their entire lives without experiencing life is a tragedy. If you die, there is really no tragedy. That is the end of whatever problems you are experiencing in life. But if you are alive and not experiencing life in its totality, that is a true tragedy. This is expressed very beautifully in a Sanskrit verse. It says: "Jananam Sukhadam Maranam Karunam'. "Jananam' means birth or life. It says life is a pleasure or joy. This is so. If you learn to handle your body and mind properly, your experience of life will be a pleasure or joy. But 'maranam', or death, is 'karunam', or compassion, Death is compassion because it relieves you.
Very well said! Here's to living life and not turning it into a tragedy.